You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no
Updated: Oct 20, 2019
During your fertility journey how many work events or social events have you rocked up to lately yet emotionally you really aren’t able for them? Its mentally and emotionally crippling isn’t it especially if you are dealing with raging hormones or worse the tragic loss of a much yearned for pregnancy.
It’s ok to say no. It’s ok not to go into big long-winded excuses. It’s ok to just put yourself and your own heart and mental health first if the one thing in life you want right now is a healthy pregnancy to term resulting in your own healthy and happy baby and its not happening and emotionally that is just hard right now.
You don’t have to struggle through another baby shower or social event where those well intended but exhausting questions around your intentions to have babies get fired at you sometimes by people you don’t even know.
Good kind people who are not on the fertility journey have very strong boundaries around their time and their wellbeing. You can too. If you don’t want to or if you just can’t as emotionally it’s just not wise for you to push yourself to go, then don’t. Stay home, have a bath, go for a long drive, go to a yoga class, lunch or don’t lunch out, be with that one person who gets it and supports you, sleep or do whatever it is you need to make sure you are looking after yourself during what can be an extremely isolating emotionally crippling life event of infertility.
As a busy individual outside of your fertility challenges there will be many times where you are forced to say no to events for various reasons so don’t feel obliged in any way or in fear that your non attendance will be judged upon. When you feel up to going then of course its good to stay connected with friends and colleagues and be social. But right now if you are in the thick of this journey and having a tough time you’ve got enough on your plate – you can still be a good person with a kind heart and say no.